Men's mental health is often shaped less by one crisis than by years of carrying things alone. Loneliness, anger, shame, grief, a relationship under strain: these are common experiences, and most men face them without telling anyone. The articles here look at what lies underneath, and at what a men's group can offer that little else in modern life does.
Loneliness and connection
Many men are lonelier than they would ever say. Start with the male loneliness epidemic, then which kind of lonely are you? to help name what you're feeling.
Anger, shame and what sits underneath
Anger and shame are close relatives, and both often protect something tender. Read men and anger and shame and men.
Relationships, fatherhood and loss
Relationships, separation, fatherhood, grief and addiction can each break a man's life open. See being there isn't enough, separation and divorce, fatherhood and men's work, grief and loss and addiction in men.
If you need to talk to someone now
You don't have to wait for a group. In New Zealand you can call or text 1737 at any time to talk with a trained counsellor, free. In an emergency, call 111. A men's group isn't a substitute for professional support, but for many men it's where they first say the real thing out loud. Find a men's group near you.
