What is a Men’s Group & how you can benefit

You'll join a circle of men (typically 12 or fewer) and have the opportunity to share what's happening in your life and to listen to others. You're not expected to open up straight away; just showing up is enough. Over time, as trust builds, deeper sharing and connection become possible. See how groups work and What to expect from your first visit

No problem. This is very common among men, and it's completely understandable. Nobody is expected to bare their soul on the first visit. Most men are surprised to find how quickly a sense of safety develops once they see others being honest without being judged. The group exists precisely because opening up doesn't come naturally for most of us. Learn about group principles

Confidentiality is a core principle of every men's group in our network. What's shared in the circle stays there. Groups also operate on clear principles around respect, honesty, and non-judgement, which are agreed to by all members. These aren't just guidelines; they're the foundation that makes genuine openness possible. Read the group principles

That's more common than you might think, and it's not a problem. You don't need to arrive with anything figured out. Many men start simply by describing what's been happening in their lives, and the feelings often follow naturally from there. Learning to identify and articulate what's going on inside is one of the things men develop over time in a group. You're not expected to be good at it when you begin. See suggested sharing topics

Most groups meet fortnightly, and the expectation is that you show up regularly for yourself and for the other men who are counting on you. That consistency is part of what makes it work. If you're not ready for a regular group you can still check one out without any immediate commitment, or an event or retreat can be a good place to start. View upcoming events

Yes, there is usually no cost. Groups listed on this site are free, with no membership fees or ongoing costs. Some groups may ask men to contribute to shared expenses like venue hire, but this is minimal, if anything. Retreats, workshops, and other events usually have a cost to cover facilitation and venue, but regular group attendance is almost always free. Find a group near you

Browse the groups listed by region to find one near you, then get in touch with the group directly using the contact info at the bottom of each listing. If the group has space, you will be invited to attend a meeting to check it out. The group will welcome you, and will explain and demonstrate how things work. If more than one group exists in your area, feel free to try two or more to find the best long-term fit for you. Find a group near you

Not every group is the right fit for every man, and that's completely normal. Groups develop their own culture, traditions, and personality over time, and sometimes a man simply connects better with a different mix of people. If a first group doesn't feel right, and you're lucky enough to have more than one in your area, try another one. It's worth giving any group at least two or three visits before deciding, since first meetings can feel unfamiliar regardless of the group. Find a group near you

We're actively expanding and new groups are being formed all the time. Get in touch and we can let you know what's coming up in your area, or talk through options, including starting a group yourself. The descriptions and resources on this site form a solid foundation, and facilitator training workshops are available each year in both North and South Island locations. We've got you covered with How to start a men's group: a practical guide for New Zealand men