I came to men's work in 2013 through a mental health crisis. My first experience was a Rotoiti Men's Retreat. It opened my mind and soul in a major way. There I was invited to join a new men's group, which I am still part of.
I believe in accountability, radical self-responsibility, and the brotherhood of men. Our group places a strong emphasis on honest feedback and holding each other to account.
Five years ago, Victor and I embarked on a mission to make men's groups available to any man who wants one. We created the Nelson International Men's Day event, which makes our work visible to the male public, presents relevant issues through experts in the field, and helps us connect men's groups with the wider social work and counselling community.
We have created 7 new groups so far, and I have been involved in facilitating all of them.
I am proud of our achievements, including a leadership workshop, a nationwide men's group website, strong connections with West Coast, Christchurch, and Kaikōura groups, as well as Essentially Men in Auckland and Wellington, and a thriving scene in Nelson of at least 10 connected groups.
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If you are interested in joining a group (or checking one out causally) get in touch with the group directly — using the contact info at the bottom of each listing.
If the group has space, you will be invited to attend a meeting to check it out. The group will welcome you, and will explain and demonstrate how things work.
If more than one group exists in your area, feel free to try two or more to find the best long-term fit for you.